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Lesson Objectives
- Learn the armor we use to protect ourselves against feelings of shame and how the uncertainty associated with vulnerability affects our ability to practice authenticity and experience connection.
- Explore how and why perfectionism, numbing, and foreboding joy are three of the most commonly used armoring practices and how to move through them toward increased authenticity.
- Learn how to recognize shame including our physiological responses.
- Cultivate shame resilience skills.
Reading Assignment – Daring Greatly
Chapters 3 and 4
Introduction Video
Lesson Video – The Armory
Lesson Video – Shame Shields
Exercise One – The Physiology of Shame
Use the blank spaces to complete the following sentences with your own thoughts and ideas:
IF SHAME WERE A COLOR, IT WOULD BE . . .
Exercise Two – Shame Shields
Below are the three Strategies of Disconnection as developed by Linda Hartling, a relational-cultural theorist.
- Moving away – withdrawing, hiding, silencing ourselves, and keeping secrets.
- Moving toward – seeking to appease and please.
- Moving against – trying to gain power over others, being aggressive, and using shame to fight shame.
Answer the following questions: